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Have you read the book about Love Languages? There are 5: Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Gifts. I have read through the book a few times, in different stages of my life – as I feel love languages grow and change, just like we grow and change! The love language I have always identified with most, across different life stages, is Words of Affirmation. The positive feedback, the compliments, the warm fuzzies. This means I am feeling most loved when Taylor speaks those words to me, and I’m sharing my love by speaking them to him. While everyone speaks and receives their love in different ways, giving and feeling love is truly a continuum of all 5 languages.
Whether or not you’re a warm fuzzy like me, let me suggest including these affirmations in your daily interactions with your spouse. These 50 affirmations take saying ‘I Love You’ to the next level, you’re specific, unique, and honest. A fresh twist on an important, but common, phrase. Who doesn’t love a kudos, positive affirmation? Send a quick text with one of these affirmations, write em on a post it note in your bathroom mirror, tell them during pillow talk before bed, sneak in a note into their lunch box, send them a message to their work email, leave a few in a voicemail, share over morning coffee!
50 Spouse Affirmations that Aren’t ‘I Love You’
- Thank you for loving me the way you do.
- You are so hot!
- You are such a great teammate.
- I appreciate you.
- Thank you for being patient with me.
- I feel safe and comforted in your arms.
- You’re the best face to wake up to.
- You made me feel special today.
- Thank you for protecting me.
- You have such a warm heart.
- Thank you for making me laugh today.
- You taught me something new today!
- I love the way you treat your parents.
- You are gonna make such a wonderful parent.
- I can’t wait to hug you!
- Thank you for supporting me.
- I appreciate the way we make decisions together.
- You smell so yummy!
- I love uninterrupted time with you.
- Thank you for listening to me.
- That was a very insightful point you made.
- I am so excited for our date night!
- I am so proud of you.
- I love how cute you look when you’re sleeping.
- Seeing you in that outfit makes me want you.
- You have such a creative imagination.
- I admire your work ethic.
- Thank you for pushing me to be my best.
- You are such a good friend.
- I’m so happy I married you.
- You make the best roommate!
- Thank you for doing that, you are so kind.
- I fell more in love with you today.
- You are the best gift!
- I’m better when I’m with you.
- I really appreciate your commitment to our marriage.
- You are so funny, I love your sense of humor.
- You are perfect for that role, and you will do so well!
- I can’t wait to come home to you!
- I love the way you handled that situation.
- I’m praying for you today.
- You did the right thing, thank you.
- There’s no one else I’d rather be with.
- You are a generous man.
- You are my home.
- You always make me smile!
- Thank you for helping me through this tough time.
- I can’t wait to do you!
- You are so beautiful.
- How did I get so lucky!
Our #1 marriage routine for connectedness among a busy schedule
As a full-time Emergency Room RN, working mid-shifts, I am away from home 3 nights a week. Thats 3 nights Taylor is on his on for dinner, and falling asleep alone. I always tell him I’m grateful that he’s the one having to fall asleep alone, I would really struggle with that! When we first moved in together a few months before our wedding back in 2017, we started a routine of writing handwritten notes from each other. Taylor writes a note before he goes to bed, that way I have something from him to read and respond to when i get home around 1am. I wind down after a busy shift by writing to him before crawling into bed for the night. It works as a way for us to connect while being apart for those 3 nights. We started out using old notebooks from college that still had paper left in em, but now we purchase cute notebooks with sturdier covers that will withstand time!
The topics of the notes vary. Often we’ll write about our day, maybe a funny story or two. I’ll recap a patient I cared for. Something we’re excited about or looking forward to. A fun fact we learned. Why we love each other. What we’re praying about. Thanking each other for a task that was completed. Over 3 years, its now a collection of 5ish notebooks! We imagine ourselves later as an elderly couple reading through them together, or our kiddos reading them one day!
Highly encourage you to love on your spouse by speaking these affirmations, and challenging yourselves as a couple to write to each other routinely!
